I evaluate my friendship for the past one year. I honestly have nothing much to give after giving so much out. Over-giving in friendship is what this is called. One strong feeling that comes up is hurt. This is what exactly happened, a friend schedule a time to hang out. So I did, i was excited to meet up over a coffee or lunch then this is what happened, she cancelled 1.5 hour before saying she needs to finish her work , she prefer to get it done that day (don’t we all?) I guess I know now where I stand in someone life. Remember this is twice in a row she did this. It is always me who reach out first, send memes on instagram.
I was already on my way there. . . This is the second time. (geez..) She has work to finish. For me, I am a freelance personal trainer, I actually did not schedule any session so we can finally meet up. I was so pissed but the first emotion that rises is HURT.
I believe in this “no man is an island”. I know from experience you need a good support system but this is what drives me to go back into isolation. AGAIN.
I have cut people out of my life and damn it feels good. I recommend you do it fast before you waste yourself on another “friendship” they rent free on your mind but let’s face it not everyone is meant to be in your circle.
Here is 3 simple ways to know if this person is a good friend to you, try one at a time:
- Your body feels good, light, inspired or even a sense of calm after talking to them
- if you share good news, you can feel they are genuinely are happy for you
- you guys can agree to disagree an opinion regarding something
Number 4 > they don’t cancel on you right at last minute, this is plain disrespectful.
What other ways do you find yourself giving way too much in friendship?
