Conversation with two of my girlfriends named A & E
How I have protected myself from letting them hurt me at work so you can do the same.
Professionally.
I have learnt to now NOT show up as “me”
The funny, laid back, laughing out loud Kartini.
I do my work intensely for first 2 months. I usually don’t accept an offer for a lunch meeting unless it is mandatory. I skip gathering after work, drinks, coffee, etc. I usually eat my meal by myself. Here are the benefits:
1. healthier
2. I avoid gossips
3. I can actually focus on more work to get done.
I barely speak about my son.
I only tell them the AREA where I live.
I STOP THERE.
Here is why… the less emotional, personal you are with people at work they only picture you in that way and that is PERFECTLY FINE WITH ME.
But if you pull the curtain to your personal life, they will USE it against you.
Example, if you come into work but you had a fight with your partner and it is not solved, sweetheart I don’t care how strong you are or “fake it till you make it”, your colleagues will definitely know you are having issues.
If they do know you have a crappy relationship like how you like to open the curtain to your personal life then this comments will come through
“Told you he is no good of a boyfriend”
“I know from the start it is not going to workout”
I have been going to the same gym for 8 years. My ex bf only came once. LOL for a good 5 minutes only 2 personal trainers have seen me with a partner.
I have worked a lot of jobs after that but no one has seen me with any partner.
It is okay to be quiet and just work. We are meant to “work”. Go to work, work on ourselves and create a life we want. Personally I love working a lot on things I enjoy doing like creating this kind of blog , going to the gym or box.
Till now, some of the personal trainers in the gym have no clue of my name, LOL!
Like every time you are on 3 months of probation at work, this is where you also evaluate people you work with. Time for you to start creating another personality so they can’t hurt you, protect your time
I like creating different stories so I send different people to different paths. Create a trail of not so true while you are actually where you are living the way you want to live.
YOUR CIRCLE OF FRIENDS are the only ones who truly know who you are.
Everyone else needs to stay outside of that circle. YOU have the power to do this and one of the ways is create a split personality. Would you do this?
